At this moment in time, are you the same person you were when you got together with your partner?
It’s true you probably haven’t changed your name, you still have the same line of work and I think it’s safe to say your parents are the same.But is it possible you are 100% the same person?
You need to think about how your personality has changed if you are trying to make your ex need you again. And put this beside how you were when you both fell for each other.
Why don’t we check out some really normal behavior right after a break. What many people do in this situation is lose it completely. They run to their ex and state their never ending love for them. Then when that does not do the job they begin to plead with them to stay. Next, they will say their life won’t be bearable if the ex leaves. Finally, they lock themselves away and don’t converse with anybody.
Basically, this behavior shows the hallmarks of someone on the brink of madness. If you have done anything similar to this you have to ask this question to yourself- Am I the person I was at the time we met? It’s improbable that they fell for a clingy, needy type.
But lucky for you, it doesn’t have to be this way, it’s up to you. All you have to do is take a seat, breath deep and look at the situation objectively. Splitting up can be a horrible time on the feelings however it usually is notlasting damage. The problem is in the chance of giving your ex an image of you that will be difficult to change for a long time.
In partnerships you tend to become relaxed. And to be blunt, people get lazy when they get settled. If this occurs we take things for granted and maybe don’t know the relationship has problems. Thus, it can be a shock that cracks come to light and expand at such speed. Then you can be in danger of acting the way your emotions tell you.
The sensible thing to do is get some distance inbetween you and your ex. Then your aim has to be to start to become the original person your ex first fell for. Actually, if you make a plan to make your ex want you back you will become a better person than you were before.
So, to win your ex back return to your old self. You really have no excuse not to try to get your ex back by a little self-improvement.