Some men go through life feeling that they are alone and unloved. Some are married but feel that they are in a loveless relationship, others have never been in a long term relationship. Both categories, whether you are married or in a relationship but have that feeling of loneliness and those of you who have never been in a long term relationship should search yourselves first before pointing the finger at anyone else.
I have know people who hop in and out of relationships saying that it wasn’t what they were looking for. Only realizing late in life that what they were looking for was unrealistic, they were looking for the type of relationship that you see in the movies or on TV. They come to realize too late in life that there was one person who they thought wasn’t right for them, who with hindsight was exactly what they were looking for.
Some people may think of these girls as prostitutes, I don’t, I think of them as girls ! who are surviving and helping their families survive. What is the difference between picking a girl up in a bar in Sydney or New York, buying them a few drinks, dinner or even jewelery, then taking them home to your place for a night of frivolity and paying a girl whose company you enjoy a few dollars for their company for the night or longer.
To make a blossoming relationship work and to keep it blossoming you have to continue to make the effort and even increase your efforts. Let me use this analogy. If you buy a business, you will work at it day and night to make it a success. Once you reduce your efforts the business will fail very quickly. The same goes for a relationship, no relationship will last without the effort.
For those of you who have never been in a long term relationship, what are you looking for in a partner? Are you looking for a partner who only exists in fairy tales? There is no such thing as “and they all lived happily ever after”. Be realistic, you are not perfect so why should you expect to find a partner who is perfect. The perfect match or person does not exist.
He finally realized that it wasn’t the women who were the problem, it was him. He was too demanding, he finally settled down and has been with the same girl for 3yrs now, once again she looks a lot like his first wife, but he will never get her back, so he is prepared to settle for second or third best. At least he has settled, and he is now saying that he is in love.
Love is something that comes from within, you have to give it before you get it. Many times I have heard of people go out and looking for the love that they feel is missing from their lives; they never find it. Sometimes you have to stop looking for love and get on with your life, if you are an open and accepting person the love with find you, you don’t have to go out looking for it.
How many people do you know who have left someone because they thought that they weren’t in love, or because they thought that it wasn’t the relationship that they were looking for only to realize when it was too late that the one they left was the one for them. You don’t always know what you have got until it is gone.
These girls in the main are or can be very nice girls, but they are looking for a way out of poverty. They will do and say anything to marry someone who will take them out of Asia. Sure they will look after you, as long as you are good to them, and you can come to love each other. But they don’t say “love you short time” for nothing, they will love you as long as you are there or as long as your money lasts.