” Online Flirting ” - a New Art Form

Some of the things that work for online flirting, are similar in theory to what works for brick and mortar in making them strong, when putting together the first building bricks, by skillful use of knowing how to use the tools. The same type of thing is true to online dating when it comes to flirting. One thing needed in the art of flirting, is showing you have strong confidence, without being pushy, prideful or OTT. If you go too far, she will label you as: “slimy”. If you don’t go far enough, she will label you as: “wimpy”. Do you want to learn how to avoid being labeled slimy or wimpy and still flirt successfully online, even without any face to face contact? You already have some of the tools needed with your computer, internet connection, membership with an online dating site and now you just need good flirting skills to bring it home.

1. Have fun! Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining. Make her eager to talk to you again. Remember part of the art of flirting is being playful.

2. Show confidence. People successful in flirting have a positive outlook on life. You need to transmit the “feel good” factor.

An optimistic attitude attracts females like honey attracts flies.

3. Compliment her, and do it often and sincerely.

Nothing opens a door like making her feel good about herself. She will want to spend more time with you and if she pays you a compliment say “thank you”. Never cut your self down or down play her compliment.

4. You need to be a good listener and always listen, listen, listen. Pay attention to what she says and ask appropriate questions. Get her to open up and talk about herself. Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her. When you show that you are really interested in her as a person, it will work wonders!

5. Don’t be rude. Flirting does not include being sexually explicit nor taking offence if the lady isn’t responding to you. You need to take the hint if she is not interested, and don’t hound her to respond, but instead just move on to the next prospect. If you get a lot of rejections, you should probably consider a different approach.

6. Send an email after you chat. This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to successful flirting.

Remember, do not move to fast, just take it easy. Flirting is the first step to a successful relationship.

Successful online dating can be summed up in the words of Ether Barrymore: “The best time to make friends is before you need them”; and, “Laughter is the shortest distance between two friends”.

When you think of flirting, what is the first thing that springs to mind. If you are similar to the majority of people, flirtation is all about body language and eye contact which are physical one on one things that are not easily copied online. However, flirtation is not only limited to somebody in person, since it can also be done effectually by texting, telephone, email or online chats, provided you know how.

Flirtation in the real world is the flick of the hair, the timid grin, the genuine eye contact or the light brushing of the other persons skin. As well as the physical aspects, flirtation also has a lot to do with what you say and how you put those words across and that is the part that can be effectually replicated online.

In the world of online dating, being able to flirt effectually can develop both interest and lift the prospective relationship up a notch. Although a great ice breaker to get a conversation going, it does require more than simply sending a virtual wink to a prospective mate.

Following that all important first contact, it is important to correspond in both a natural and relaxed way. If you start making conversation simply for the sake of it, the person on the receiving end will know and they may get put off. A great bit of advice which can help here is recognizing that less is more and there is no need to write lengthy, dull paragraphs.  As a rule of thumb, try to keep your messages down to about five brief sentences that are both intriguing and cheerful. Flirtation is an art which has to be learnt and by keeping your writing playful and positive, you will be able to master the science before you know it.

If you find yourself suffering from writers block, try studying the other persons online dating profile and then ask a question about something you find interesting in them. Doing so demonstrates that you are taking an interest and showing that interest is a definite turn-on. However, make sure that you phrase the question in the right way. Asking something that can only be replied with a yes or no is not the best conversation starter.

Another sure fire way to get an answer is to write an intriguing tidbit about yourself without actually telling too much. By doing that, you will probably trigger the interest of the other person who will then write back needing to know more. Assuming that does occur, you are well on your way to making a genuine love connection.

Now you have got to keep the communication going but do not make it look as if you are being overeager. Part of the flirting process includes playing hard to get. Rather than instantaneously responding to the person with whom you are communicating, keep him or her waiting a bit for your response. Maybe an hour or so or even a day, but not any longer. If you wait too long, the person with whom you are in communication with might get the feeling that you have lost interest in them. Learning this delicate balancing act is all part of the art of online flirting.

One final piece of advice is to go with your inner voice. If the chat does not seem to be right, do not waste too much time on it. Move on because there are plenty more opportunities waiting for you